This morning, wake up from sleep Arine and direct song she liked. Cute and adorable. One song is over and then continued again with the same song. Is repeated until it was time bath. As I undressed, she refused. She said no and did not want to shower. I Wondered what he wants? indeed, the word does not often come out of her mouth had a few days ago.

Eat his apple, shake hands, play park, bathing, no need to ask the question because the answer is always the same: no! To know how to respond to these systematic denial follow the advice of child psychiatrist.

From about 16 months, children often point to say no. Initially, it is through imitation they pronounce that syllable (or shake his head or index from right to left), to show they understood the list of prohibitions that has arisen since their some time: "no, do not touch that vase," "no, do not eat with your hands", etc.. This obviously does not constitute a source of conflict but rather of pride for kids and fun for their parents!

The baby's not real then expressed refusal on various occasions in daily life: food, toiletries, games ... Conflicts often start around the bush. This is a custom design from parent to applying for the first time their babies to meet expectations that he is the only one who can fulfill: to become clean. Besides these early experiences can frighten and a page of mothering turns (there will be no change). Baby gains independence through his efforts. He understands that he has the power to please his elders or otherwise annoy them by refusing to submit to their request. The parent-child relationships evolve. Failure becomes a means to assert themselves as individuals (just as in adolescence) and his job perfectly normal.

And this, especially if the child has a strong need for assertiveness due to his temperament, his place among siblings or family history (parents have such difficulties through which to doubt the child its place in the family). Except at the beginning, children will use and abuse it and it'll have to help them sort out what they can and can not refuse ... on pain of becoming completely goat ...

Answering yes to some non.
First are not reflecting a choice, a taste and deserve to be listened to and respected wherever possible. This avoids not bad conflict ... Example: "No, I do not want to put this T-shirt. "Ok, which do you prefer don? . This is not to negotiate continuously, using it would, but to let the character speak to the child.

Other cases: "No, I do not want to taste this dish" or "No, I do not want to go on tour." Explain why you insist, ask questions about the refusal and if not complied, gently force "to try anyway" and take your baby to the park what it says ... Let not speak but do not follow so far! Later, when the fun slide, be sure to ask why just refused it out with such vehemence! The strategy is to By understanding that he should (could) say yes immediately, the child will learn that yes (provided that failure) can be used to assert

Then there are not revealing a desire to progress and thus to transgress the limits set. "No, I want to ride this course alone. He must then know how to challenge and to trust the child (if the application is measured of course) and accompany him in his approach (in this example, stay posted behind him in case), even to what it makes the experience that he was wrong about his abilities.

Finally, there are not to refuse to obey instructions. And sometimes they are legitimate! Indeed, the glut of prohibitions and not from the parent, too rigid environment may explain the repeated refusal of a child. For example, if it refuses to store the last toy lying on the table or eat without putting a drop of paste on the cloth.

Arine always give the best to her parents. as the last birthday, she was always cheerful when many people come to visit us. We love you Arine and be the best.